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Before ringing in the new year, we often reflect on past events. 2021 was, arguably, the worse year in recent memory but we should consider what it taught us. Globally, we saw how smart and not-so-smart decisions ended up defining our lives and the lives of our family and friends.

As the seasons change, we embrace the youthful exuberance of the early summer light, the shortening days of fall, the colder, dimmer warmth of winter’s light that eventually gives way to the brightening days of spring. It’s a natural progression.

As I learn to enjoy or find solace in each changing season, it reminds me that we also have seasons. We prepare for nature’s changing seasons but we are not so quick to prepare for our own natural changes as we move through the seasons of our lives. While it’s never too early to plan, it's unwise to find yourself unprepared. Just as a snow shovel in summer can’t do you much good, the wrong plan or no plan won’t do you much good. Now is the best season to become educated and plan for the later “seasons” of your life.

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Jodi was fast becoming the family’s “presumptive caregiver.” She stopped exercising, eating right, sleeping through the night, started to neglect personal relationships, and was passed over for a promotion. She knew things would only get worse. Is there time to plan or is it too late? It is such a hard conversation to have…….Are you Jodi or has someone you love taken on that role?

Due to the pandemic, the Jones family canceled their annual barbecue. Unable to get together for a long time, they decide to celebrate Grandma Carolyn’s seventy-seventh birthday on Zoom. At least a virtual party would be better than nothing.

(Chart #1 - GENERATIONAL FAMILY

There is no perfect solution to preparing for extended or long term care needs. But you can learn to learn. The information gathered and shared during the 3 simple steps allows you to build loving, workable relationships and avoid resentment and anger.